Get out of the rut!

I know, I know..sometimes it feels so comfortable to be in one's comfort zone that one is terribly reluctant to get out of that zone.
Well, I've got news for you!
Once you're out of your comfort zone, you'll be glad you did!

Before this I was so complacent with my surroundings that I thought it would be a complete nightmare if I got out of my ol' comfy environment.
However, once when I'm finally out of that ol' comfort zone, I realised that I could adapt to new surroundings and that I could overcome the new challenges in my life.

I'm glad that I took that first step (however frightening and intimidating it was)
but I'm glad I did.
When I look back, I think that I wouldn't be as happy as I am today if I had just accepted things as they were.
Taking that first step was scary because I was stepping into an uncharted territory..but then, what is life if we don't constantly push ourselves to face the unknown and gradually change for the better.

Actually we never know our hidden strengths until we are forced to uncover them by external circumstances.
When we realise that we have so much hidden potential, we will come to realise our own worth and appreciate ourselves better!
Soon, we will feel as if we are on top of the world and that we are better mentally prepared to face any challenge that come our way!

Love ourselves first!

I have met a lot of women who feel that they are worth nothing without a man by their side.
This is wrong!

What women have to realise is that they are indeed special individuals and have so much to give to the people around them and to the world!
If the right man happens to come along and is very supportive of her, then by all means it was meant to be.
However there are tons of women out there who still haven't found their Mr. Right and blamed themselves for it. It's not the woman's fault if she can't find a decent guy. The reality is that decent guys are very few and hard to come by. What most women have unfortunately found are jerks, morons, egomaniacs and womanisers.

Are we suppose to settle for just any tom, dick or harry?
Have you ever seen a cow with wings?

While Mr. Right takes a little bit of time finding his way to our doorstep, women must realise that life must go on! Time and tide waits for no woman or man!

We must still carry on with our lives, try to achieve our ambition and uncover our potential!
It could be about pursuing our studies, start a new business, or try to get a promotion at our workplace. The thing that we have to remember is that we have so much untapped potential that is not dependent on whether we have a man by our side or not!

I'm not saying that women should live without men, no, of course not.
What I'm trying to say is that women should pursue their own endeavours and if by some twist of fate that our Mr. Right should happen to come along, then so be it.

If he hasn't appeared yet, don't worry.
Remember that God has a bigger plan for all of us and if He says that we will meet our Mr. Right , we will meet him sooner or later.

To all those women out there who are still clinging on to the jerks in their lives..just think, is it really worth it? What are you truly afraid of? Being alone? Being ostracised by society?

The reality hits you when you realise that you can't stand his philandering ways or his constant lies or the way he either mentally or physically abuses you...

When you yourself have come to the realisation that enough is enough, then make the decision that is the best for you!
Everything that happens to us is a direct effect of our own decisions or indecisions..

Life is all about decisions. Making the decision to be in a loveless relationship that is full of lies and deceit is only a recipe for future heartache, resentment and disaster.
However being alone is an even more frightening idea for some women.

Whatever decision a woman makes, she must remember that it is she and she alone that makes the decision and not anyone else. In making a decision there will always be risks involved.
Weigh the pros and the cons and remember that only you will have to live with your decision and no one else.

Expectations

Someone recently told me how hard it is to live up to others' expectations of them.
Yes, it is never easy because when we are trying to please others or trying to fulfill their expectations we do tend to struggle to live up to their high standards.
Especially when we are young, we do tend to want to make others around us happy.

However as we grow older we realise that this is indeed a heavy burden.
A friend of mine told me that we cannot make others happy because in the process we will be unhappy instead.
Being a martyr is good to a certain extent but we must remember that we must make ourselves happy too!
What is life if our sole aim is to make others happy?

What we must remember is to give our best in whatever we do and leave the rest to God to decide our destiny.
If we think there is room for improvement, then of course we should strive to improve ourselves.
Nevertheless we should not be too hard on ourselves when we fail to hit the mark.
We are only human and we learn through our mistakes.
In time, we will gradually improve on our weaknesses.

We must also remember that we have a lot of strengths too!
Don't merely focus on our weaknesses because by doing so, of course we are going to develop a complex!
As humans we are not perfect but that should not be an excuse for us not to improve ourselves.
The thing is we must strike a balance between improving our weaknesses and realising that we have strengths too!
The only person we are competing against is ourselves.
So the next time we feel down..remember that we also have our own unique strengths!