Kids look up to adults. They see us as their role models whether we like it or not.
It will be such a shame if we acted inappropriately infront of them because they will tend to imitate us in the longrun.
So it is high time that we realise that it is our responsibility to not just set a good example but also to mould these young impressionable minds with all things positive and good.
A lot of cynics out there will of course say it's a hopeless task to educate the young but I think it is possible!
As adults we have the opportunity to build self-confidence in these young individuals. Many youngsters have a low self-esteem and this will inadvertently affect their lives.
Some adults do not realise the impact of their harsh words on the young.
One wrong word might have a devastating impact on a young individual with no self-esteem who may not have the opportunity to come from a loving and supportive family.
We must be careful with the way we label a person. Labels such as "smart, hardworking, brainy" have a positive effect on anyone but if we start to label others as "stupid, lazy, hopeless" , anyone might even begin to believe that they are as such.
However if these youngsters get a lot of positive reinforcement, this will build their self-esteem. When they feel good about themselves, they will be more motivated to do more than what is expected of them. The young are the future leaders of the world as cliche-ish as it may sound. The young has so much potential in them.
They have the potential to become good, hardworking, brilliant and successful !! Can you just imagine what great things they can do with their lives if they are confident and happy ??
So isn't it a shame if all this potential was wasted on drugs and other useless activities?
In a nutshell, we must be more careful in what we say to others because for some, it might have a long-term effect that will stay with them for most of their adult lives.
Monday, July 13, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Take it back!
A lot of women when we are married tend to be depressed when the men in our lives do not give us enough emotional support. Hmm.. maybe that is what is meant by marriage.
No marriage is of course perfect.
The most important thing that women, married or otherwise, must remember is that our happiness and self-worth must not hinge on anyone's approval or disapproval.
If we let others influence how we see ourselves, we will never be free!
That is why my title today is called "Take it back!"
It's time that women take back the control that we have unconsciously given to others!
It's time that women realise our true worth and that we as women have accomplished a lot in our lives without (most of the time) the assistance of others!
We must value ourselves the way God values us! As women, we are the one helping the men in our lives sort out their lives. As women, we are the ones who carry around another human being for 9 months and continue to care for the child even beyond the child's stage of adulthood!
As women, we have also greatly contributed to our family, society and country in numerous ways!
So why do we need another individual's approval to make us happy?
Obviously we don't.
We have accomplished so much in our life that we ought to be proud of.
No, this is not narcissistic of us to do so. This is a realistic evaluation of our own worth!
Once we have realise our own worth, we will no longer feel the need to seek the approval of others around us.
No marriage is of course perfect.
The most important thing that women, married or otherwise, must remember is that our happiness and self-worth must not hinge on anyone's approval or disapproval.
If we let others influence how we see ourselves, we will never be free!
That is why my title today is called "Take it back!"
It's time that women take back the control that we have unconsciously given to others!
It's time that women realise our true worth and that we as women have accomplished a lot in our lives without (most of the time) the assistance of others!
We must value ourselves the way God values us! As women, we are the one helping the men in our lives sort out their lives. As women, we are the ones who carry around another human being for 9 months and continue to care for the child even beyond the child's stage of adulthood!
As women, we have also greatly contributed to our family, society and country in numerous ways!
So why do we need another individual's approval to make us happy?
Obviously we don't.
We have accomplished so much in our life that we ought to be proud of.
No, this is not narcissistic of us to do so. This is a realistic evaluation of our own worth!
Once we have realise our own worth, we will no longer feel the need to seek the approval of others around us.
Monday, May 18, 2009
A well-balanced life
From what I see, a lot of unhappiness in this world could have all been avoided if people were just more loving, supportive and sympathetic towards one another.
Maybe some of you cynics will say 'what a lot of baloney!' but if you really think about it, there is a grain of truth in what I have said.
When you look at disruptive behaviour among children or even the parents themselves, if you were to look closely you will eventually realise that I am right.
Couples who fight have lost that loving feeling. Somehow along the way, they have forgotten the main reason why they had gotten married in the first place. So in the end, for some people, a separation is inevitable. Of course, the children are the ones who suffer the most.
However even if the parents do not separate, the children will sense the negative and tense atmosphere in the home. Children are not as naive as some parents think. The former can see and hear everything and at that tender age, they are highly impressionable.
The important thing is that people should try to be a bit more sympathetic and loving towards those around them. This is because a little show of encouragement and love has a huge impact than we can ever imagine.
Maybe some of you cynics will say 'what a lot of baloney!' but if you really think about it, there is a grain of truth in what I have said.
When you look at disruptive behaviour among children or even the parents themselves, if you were to look closely you will eventually realise that I am right.
Couples who fight have lost that loving feeling. Somehow along the way, they have forgotten the main reason why they had gotten married in the first place. So in the end, for some people, a separation is inevitable. Of course, the children are the ones who suffer the most.
However even if the parents do not separate, the children will sense the negative and tense atmosphere in the home. Children are not as naive as some parents think. The former can see and hear everything and at that tender age, they are highly impressionable.
The important thing is that people should try to be a bit more sympathetic and loving towards those around them. This is because a little show of encouragement and love has a huge impact than we can ever imagine.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Inner Strength+Peace of Mind= YOU
In life sometimes it's easier to merely go through the motions
but then, sooner or later we will eventually realise that we are missing out on something.
It is better for us to take some time to reflect on what is important or who is important
to us.
For many people out there, they are living with a lot of regrets.
I, for one, do not want to be one of those people.
Let me make mistakes because that is how I will learn to be wiser (I hope).
Have no regrets..
I thank God everyday that He has given me the strength to face up to my own mistakes
and to learn to forgive myself.
The most important thing is that He has given me the strength to face the harsh reality of life. He has helped me to move on regardless whatever problems I may have had before this.
It's extremely difficult to face the fact that we are in fact not infallible but then again, we are only human. To err is human, to forgive divine.
For some people, it is hard for them to face reality because they are still very fragile inside.
I was in this particular state once.
Now, I am a bit stronger and I hope that someday other people will also gain the inner strength as I have and they will all be able to face life
in a calm and accepting way.
I find that all the money in the world can't make us feel happy
and that no matter how many new shoes or clothes we buy
it will never make us feel good about ourselves if we don't love and
appreciate ourselves.
The most invaluable thing we can all hope to acquire is
peace of mind and this
is not sold anywhere. Not even at Harrods.
Whatever good or positive values that I have I would have to thank the Creator
because He is the one that gives us hope.
Without inner strength we will surely crumble at the slightest thing.
We will surely lose our patience and temper over a minor and insignificant thing.
This is why we must all pray that our inner strength, our beliefs are strengthened day by day.
Without it, we will merely be terribly unhappy...
Happiness is a state of mind and the way to be in this state
is for us to accept life's challenges as they come and believe that
we are indeed strong enough to overcome these obstacles.
No matter what beliefs each of us may have
we must always remember that we are put here for a reason.
Strive to be the best in everything.
Be the best daughter, mother, friend that anyone could ever have.
There are too many cynics out there anyway.
Live a little, act a little crazy.
Be an optimist.
but then, sooner or later we will eventually realise that we are missing out on something.
It is better for us to take some time to reflect on what is important or who is important
to us.
For many people out there, they are living with a lot of regrets.
I, for one, do not want to be one of those people.
Let me make mistakes because that is how I will learn to be wiser (I hope).
Have no regrets..
I thank God everyday that He has given me the strength to face up to my own mistakes
and to learn to forgive myself.
The most important thing is that He has given me the strength to face the harsh reality of life. He has helped me to move on regardless whatever problems I may have had before this.
It's extremely difficult to face the fact that we are in fact not infallible but then again, we are only human. To err is human, to forgive divine.
For some people, it is hard for them to face reality because they are still very fragile inside.
I was in this particular state once.
Now, I am a bit stronger and I hope that someday other people will also gain the inner strength as I have and they will all be able to face life
in a calm and accepting way.
I find that all the money in the world can't make us feel happy
and that no matter how many new shoes or clothes we buy
it will never make us feel good about ourselves if we don't love and
appreciate ourselves.
The most invaluable thing we can all hope to acquire is
peace of mind and this
is not sold anywhere. Not even at Harrods.
Whatever good or positive values that I have I would have to thank the Creator
because He is the one that gives us hope.
Without inner strength we will surely crumble at the slightest thing.
We will surely lose our patience and temper over a minor and insignificant thing.
This is why we must all pray that our inner strength, our beliefs are strengthened day by day.
Without it, we will merely be terribly unhappy...
Happiness is a state of mind and the way to be in this state
is for us to accept life's challenges as they come and believe that
we are indeed strong enough to overcome these obstacles.
No matter what beliefs each of us may have
we must always remember that we are put here for a reason.
Strive to be the best in everything.
Be the best daughter, mother, friend that anyone could ever have.
There are too many cynics out there anyway.
Live a little, act a little crazy.
Be an optimist.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Don't wait
Many people I know always wait for things to happen to them.
A very good example is waiting for that perfect person to walk into their lives and sweep them
off their feet.
Hello!
That is not going to happen unless you're starring in your own movie.
The best thing to do is to go on with your life
and take one day at a time.
In fact let's do something crazy..
Why don't you have a GREAT life!
Indulge yourself in something that you love to do
or have always dreamt of doing.
Learn something new like a new language or sport
Learn to get to know yourself and love yourself.
In fact this is the best time to plan your career or build your wealth
Don't be too harsh on yourself when you've made a mistake.
Life is too short to wait around for a Mr Right or a Ms Right to make you happy.
The best thing to do is to make yourself happy and
to surround yourself with people that love and support you!
Once you have learnt to appreciate yourself, the people around you and your own life in general
you will realise that you don't need another person to make you happy.
This is because you are ALREADY happy and fulfilled with your life!
From my observation, people who are already happy and confident
will tend to attract a lot of people.
This in turn will usually lead them to their Mr/Ms Right.
So what I'm trying to say here
is don't wait!
You should lead your life in the way that makes you happy
and then sooner or later if it was meant to be
you will tend to meet a person who will complement your already happy and fulfiling life.
And THEN
you will have that happy ending after all. :-)
A very good example is waiting for that perfect person to walk into their lives and sweep them
off their feet.
Hello!
That is not going to happen unless you're starring in your own movie.
The best thing to do is to go on with your life
and take one day at a time.
In fact let's do something crazy..
Why don't you have a GREAT life!
Indulge yourself in something that you love to do
or have always dreamt of doing.
Learn something new like a new language or sport
Learn to get to know yourself and love yourself.
In fact this is the best time to plan your career or build your wealth
Don't be too harsh on yourself when you've made a mistake.
Life is too short to wait around for a Mr Right or a Ms Right to make you happy.
The best thing to do is to make yourself happy and
to surround yourself with people that love and support you!
Once you have learnt to appreciate yourself, the people around you and your own life in general
you will realise that you don't need another person to make you happy.
This is because you are ALREADY happy and fulfilled with your life!
From my observation, people who are already happy and confident
will tend to attract a lot of people.
This in turn will usually lead them to their Mr/Ms Right.
So what I'm trying to say here
is don't wait!
You should lead your life in the way that makes you happy
and then sooner or later if it was meant to be
you will tend to meet a person who will complement your already happy and fulfiling life.
And THEN
you will have that happy ending after all. :-)
Letting go
In life we often face a lot of challenges that overwhelm us.
We will also tend to experience things that will leave an indelible mark within our souls.
In the end, some of us will find that it is difficult to let go of past hurt, regret and disappointment.
I would like to tell you that today is that day where you should try to let go of all these negative elements that have been hovering over you like a black cloud.
When you have reached that stage where you have finally had enough of the heartache
and say that you will forgive those that hurt you
or that you will try your best to forget whoever or whatever that had hurt you
that is when I think you will experience a huge relief.
You will feel lighter and much happier than you've ever been.
All these negative feelings that we have is actually a heavy burden on the soul.
The soul was meant to be pure and when we have let all this negativity soil our soul
we will of course be in a dilemma..
The only solution is to forget it, let it go
Let whatever had hurt you in the past, go..
Then you realise that yes, you can actually smile again
and that whatever hurt you had experienced belongs firmly in the past.
Why keep on thinking about something that hurts you?
Let it go.
You'll be happier that you did.
We will also tend to experience things that will leave an indelible mark within our souls.
In the end, some of us will find that it is difficult to let go of past hurt, regret and disappointment.
I would like to tell you that today is that day where you should try to let go of all these negative elements that have been hovering over you like a black cloud.
When you have reached that stage where you have finally had enough of the heartache
and say that you will forgive those that hurt you
or that you will try your best to forget whoever or whatever that had hurt you
that is when I think you will experience a huge relief.
You will feel lighter and much happier than you've ever been.
All these negative feelings that we have is actually a heavy burden on the soul.
The soul was meant to be pure and when we have let all this negativity soil our soul
we will of course be in a dilemma..
The only solution is to forget it, let it go
Let whatever had hurt you in the past, go..
Then you realise that yes, you can actually smile again
and that whatever hurt you had experienced belongs firmly in the past.
Why keep on thinking about something that hurts you?
Let it go.
You'll be happier that you did.
Encourage others!
When we encourage others we will not only help them but we are also helping ourselves!
The power of encouraging others shouldn't be underestimated.
Isn't it a wondrous thing when you see others' eyes light up and
they begin to see that there is hope at the end of the tunnel after all?
Sometimes I just don't understand others who love to do the opposite and that is
to demotivate others.
That is really a terrible thing to do to anyone
especially to a person who already feels as if the world is against them.
The way I see it, a lot of people normally dwell in their own sorrow
and are actually merely waiting for someone to tell them that everything is
going to be alright.
Of course the reality is that maybe it won't..but then again it is a cruel thing
to dash the hopes of someone..
That is why we should always try to help others because we never know when it could be our turn to be on the receiving end of a kind word or two.
So to everyone out there try to be kind to others, it won't cost you a thing.
The power of encouraging others shouldn't be underestimated.
Isn't it a wondrous thing when you see others' eyes light up and
they begin to see that there is hope at the end of the tunnel after all?
Sometimes I just don't understand others who love to do the opposite and that is
to demotivate others.
That is really a terrible thing to do to anyone
especially to a person who already feels as if the world is against them.
The way I see it, a lot of people normally dwell in their own sorrow
and are actually merely waiting for someone to tell them that everything is
going to be alright.
Of course the reality is that maybe it won't..but then again it is a cruel thing
to dash the hopes of someone..
That is why we should always try to help others because we never know when it could be our turn to be on the receiving end of a kind word or two.
So to everyone out there try to be kind to others, it won't cost you a thing.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Compete with yourself and everyone wins!
Today's post is about envy and how it can be detrimental to your mental health.
Sometimes others are just envious of you and for no reason at all
they are out to get you!
These people are so pathetic and they just don't deserve to live, let alone be in the same country as other mentally stable human beings!
I really detest people who are envious of others but yet do nothing to improve themselves!
Hello! Don't they have a brain? Hmm..maybe they are merely brainless and therefore utterly incapable of simple reasoning!
The only thing I have to say about these people is that they are just so utterly pathetic and deserve our sympathy actually. People like these actually suffer from low bouts of self-esteem.
Yes, they might profess that they are utterly confident of themselves but really...do confident and self-assured people put others down? No!
People who are confident will be happy when those around them are successful!
The only person that everyone needs to compete with is ourselves!
The only competitor that we have is the one staring back at us in the mirror!
We ought to take things step by step. We can't instantly improve ourselves or expect a miraculous change in a blink of an eye!
However the main thing that we've got to remember is that we need to reflect and evaluate
on our strengths and weaknesses.
We identify our strengths so that we can help others to help themselves
whereas we identify our weaknesses so that we can improve on them!
Sometimes others are just envious of you and for no reason at all
they are out to get you!
These people are so pathetic and they just don't deserve to live, let alone be in the same country as other mentally stable human beings!
I really detest people who are envious of others but yet do nothing to improve themselves!
Hello! Don't they have a brain? Hmm..maybe they are merely brainless and therefore utterly incapable of simple reasoning!
The only thing I have to say about these people is that they are just so utterly pathetic and deserve our sympathy actually. People like these actually suffer from low bouts of self-esteem.
Yes, they might profess that they are utterly confident of themselves but really...do confident and self-assured people put others down? No!
People who are confident will be happy when those around them are successful!
The only person that everyone needs to compete with is ourselves!
The only competitor that we have is the one staring back at us in the mirror!
We ought to take things step by step. We can't instantly improve ourselves or expect a miraculous change in a blink of an eye!
However the main thing that we've got to remember is that we need to reflect and evaluate
on our strengths and weaknesses.
We identify our strengths so that we can help others to help themselves
whereas we identify our weaknesses so that we can improve on them!
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